Trying out XBee bootloading

I’ve done everything up to the programming the bootloader to the Arduino (using an Fio), but I don’t have a dedicated programmer. I tried using the AVR Bit-Bang method using another Arduino but after programming, the pin 13 led doesn’t blink, and I can’t program it using the FTDI basic breakout. I can not program it with the XBee either. Is it because it can not be programmed via bit bang method? I was able to burn the regular bootloader and have that work normally though.