The BlueSMiRF has labels RTS, RXI, TXO, 3V3-5V, CTS, and GND. Where are these pins located on the Lilypad? I am not trying to use the MALE/FEMALE FTD1 device to connect the Bluetooth module and Lilypad together because this will be used for uploading the code.
It looks like the defaults might be pins 2&3? See https://docs.arduino.cc/retired/boards/ … duino-usb/ (the TWI section)